What color is your music?

My coffee

I don’t know about you all, but I can only listen to certain types of music in the morning. This morning as I was searching for some new music on Youtube, I came across a series produced by Pharrell’s I Am Other team. The series is called Stereotypes. A tall guy pretty much walks around different cities and polls random people. My favorite video so far is called, “What Color is your Music?” Check it out:

I love this question because it makes you think. How diverse is your music playlist? I brought up the topic in a couple of conversations I had around campus. Being at a HBCU a few people said they listen to ‘white music’. I then asked them to define what was ‘white music’. The answer was typically country music, pop, and rock and roll. However, I love debating the fact that Rock and Roll was originated by Black artists. Given our history they just weren’t given the recognition due. Just last year Variety.com came out with an article stating Elvis Presley “invented” Rock and Roll. However, it is known that several Black artists preceded Elvis and even influenced him. Artists such as Chuck Berry, Ike Turner, Ray Charles, Big Mama Thorton and Fats Domino were overlooked but are black artists. If you ask Tumblr, you can add Sister Rosetta Tharpe to the list as a Black (and possibly gay) woman who created Rock and Roll.

So technically Rock and Roll is ‘black music’. The conversation goes more in depth as people told me that the color of the music was determined by the race of the artists. Only some white artists such as R&B favorites Robin Thicke and Justin Timberlake, passed for ‘black music’ while white rapper Iggy Azelia is denied the pass.

I came to the conclusion that music does not have a color. Music should transcend race and stereotypes. You can listen to any preference of genre without a stigma placed on it. What do you all think?

Here’s a quick clip of someone’s random singing caught on tape (shhhhh):


-Much Love! XO


The Xperiment: Real friends say what?


If you didn’t have a couple shots of espresso in today’s coffee, this post will give you a jolt.

BET has a new show that I came across that is obviously targeted to young black adults called, the Xperiment. I decided to try to give it a fair chance because I’m serious what you all will think about it. First I had to check BET for a show synopsis because I just did not understand what I stumbled on. The Xperiment is a new viral clip that touches on all things pop culture with hosts,  Amberia Allen and Mike P. Similar to its counterparts Tosh.O and Ridiculousness, viral clip shows are basically silly with comedic rudeness. Check it out here.

The Xperiment

On Love and a Latte we talked about friends and friendships before. Well, in one episode the Xperiment gave their take on the topic from ‘Black culture’s’ point of view. A girl by the name of Tyrie was welcomed to the stage and shared her “theory”: The more disrespectful you are to your friend, the closer relationship you have.

The first sketch went something like this:

Girl- I had a fight boyfriend and now we’ve broken up. I’m so upset about it.

Friend- No don’t be! Girl you are strong, courageous, and a queen!

According to Tyrie, this is fake friend. Here is how the real friend responded in the second sketch:

Friend- Listen, You’re an a**hole. Like B**ch you can be such a f**king idiot but this ain’t your fault! I’m gonna keep real with you because you’re my b**ch so let me say you shouldn’t have dated that n**ga in the first place.

…Really? I just get done watching the finale of BGR and this is what comes on?! Why must we shed this nasty light on black women? It’s like BET took one step forward and three steps back. This piece put me to mind of Monique’s Phat Girls when the African guy asked, “Why do you Americans call each other b**ches” and Monique said, “It’s a term of endearment!”.

*Raises hand* Excuse me, I don’t agree.

Disrespect does not mean we are close, it’s the opposite. All of my good friends know Homie don’t play that. My inner circle MUST be uplifting. I understand I’m not the norm. People crave this kind of drama (just look at the Basketball Wives and Bad Girls Club numbers). My question is, is there room for these types of shows and jokes? or is it time to change perspectives?

Share your thoughts in the comment section.

Much Love! XO


Why I love M.A.D. Black Girls

(Carina Sherman)

(Carina Sherman)

Last night Black Girls Rock was on. This is one award show that will leave you feeling inspired and motivated to take on the world! It was created three years ago by Beverly Bond, a black woman that definitely rocks. She created a much needed platform that highlights the positive aspects of being a black girl. The shows recognizes not only celebrities but real girls. The awards include Living Legends, Rock Stars, Change Agents, Shot Callers, Social Humanitarians, Star Power, and M.A.D. girls. What are M.A.D. girls you say?

Girls who are Making. A. Difference.

For the past few years M.A.D. girls have been young entrepreneurs that will have you in awe. This year ‘s girls included Chental Song-Bembry, Gabrielle Jordan, and Kaya Thomas. They were recognized and shared the stage with the gorgeous FLOTUS Michelle Obama. Michelle Obama, Kaya Thomas, Chental-Song Bembry, Gabrielle Jordan Don’t they all look bomb? These girls earned their votes and are an inspiration to girls everywhere. The remind you that the sky is the limit.

Chental is the creator, author, and illustrator of the Honey Bunch Kids series. She speaks to youth about the importance of literacy, goal-setting, and the impact of reading on an academic level. Follow her on twitter @chentalsong.

Gabrielle is an author, the founder of ExCEL Youth Mentoring Institute, an entrepreneurship program for youth, and the owner of Jewelz of Jordan. She is also the youngest member of the Great Black Speakers Bureau. You can follower her at @GabrielleIntl.

Last but not least, Kaya is a vlogger, techie, and creator of app We Read Too. The app helps readers find literature for and by people of color. She also runs a tech blog that gives coding tutorials. You can follow her at @kthomas901 and @WeReadTooApp.

You can check out past M.A.D. girls, performances, and by paraphernalia at www.blackgirlsrockinc.com

To get the full story on Beverly Bond you should check out her interview here with NBCBLK contributor Alex Titus.

Here is a quick video of post premier comments. Are you a Black Girl who Rocks? Share with me your thoughts on the show in the comment section.

Much Love XO

Leave it on the Field

Etsy find

Etsy find


I ran across this cute mug on Etsy (I’m a sucker for typography) by designer NoondaybyTracey . It reminded me of this cool chick, Mo’ne Davis.

(Brian Garfinkel)

(Brian Garfinkel)

This girl is doing it! Or this girl is on fire (as Alicia Keys says it).

If you haven’t heard of her already, Mo’ne Davis is the first girl to win a Little League World Series game. Last year she lead her team, the Taney Dragons, to a 4-0 win over Nashville, Tennessee. Her 70mph pitch made history as it shut the game down. This 13 year old girl is a successful shoe designer, an author, was named 2014 Sports Kid of The Year by Sports Illustrated, and now the subject of Disney Channel biopic, Throw Like Mo.

On the horizon of this years Black Girls Rock award show, I think it is necessary to give Miss Mo’ne her props. Just last year she worked with Spike Lee to make the Cheverolet-produces Throw Like a Girl short. Check out this post to learn about more girls making a difference.

She recently caught some unnecessary Twitter trolling. Bloomsburg University first baseman Joel Casselbury sent out a tweet disapproving Mo’ne’s recent Disney offer.


“Slut”. Really? Call me a feminist but it’s never okay to call a thirteen year old a slut. Needless to say Casselbury was removed from the team. His life is obviously centered around baseball but I have no sympathy for his circumstances. He should have left the trash talking on the field. When will people understand that whatever you put on the internet you are showing the world?

Before deleting his Twitter account, Casselbury was reported saying, “An example that one stupid tweet can ruin someone’s life and I couldn’t be more sorry about my actions last night”  He goes on to say, “I please ask you to forgive me and truly understand that I am in no way shape or form a sexist and I am a huge fan of Mo’ne. She was quite an inspiration.”

Don’t you just love scripted apologies? The go-to apology is always ‘I’m in no shape or form a sexist’… they just say sexist things. “I’m not a sexist. I just tell sexist jokes”; “I’m not sexist but, men are superior.”

Seriously I can go on forever about this. The point is, we as women face so many obstacles, even more being black women, but we can’t let that stop us from being great. Mo’ne forgave him with such grace as if his petty comment didn’t even phase her. I applaud her for that and her many accomplishments.

Much Love xo

Team Empire

Remember the music

Remember the music

I have a confession everyone.

I’ve been listening to Fox’s Empire soundtrack pretty much nonstop since the finale. This premier season had me feigning in anticipation for my new favorite song every episode.

However, you can’t talk about Fox’s Empire music without mentioning the drama. This year has been on fire with the TV dramas. Shonda Rhimes’ Scandal and How To Get Away with Murder and now Lee Daniel’s Empire has me glued to the television screen. If you have yet to tune in, no worries I won’t spoil it for you; but they’re definitely worth a watch. Now back to the music.

Rolling Stone recently posted about the Empire finale online. One of the takeaways was “Hakeem is the voice of our generation”. The article goes on to say:

“After reluctantly being groomed for superstardom and used a pawn in the war between Lucious and Jamal, the favored son finally stands up for himself. He is not just the fictional rapper we want, he is the fictional rapper we need. Also, bring back “Drip Drop.” We want more “Drip Drop.” Give us our “Drip Drop”!!!”

First of all I’d like to say I’m not quite sure why Hakeem is ‘the voice of our generation’. For those of you who don’t know, Hakeem is the youngest of the three Lyon sons. Spoiled, girl crazy, and slightly pretentious. Obviously dealing with some mother issues, Hakeem (Yazz) uses his issues and passion to fuel his raps. His break out song was “Drip Drop”.

The beat was crazy, the hook was great, but let’s be honest. “Drip Drop” is no better than the “new hip hop” on the radios. Seriously, the song is about sex, money, and fame. Not to mention the video is full of the common video vixens. So tell me, what is so great about “Drip Drop”?! I like Hakeem as a character, but I can do without his music (even though I did enjoy his “Age Ain’t Nuthin But A Number” performance on the finale). I prefer his brother Jamal.

Jamal Lyon’s music is just what we need in the R&B world. Where are the Music Soulchilds, and Donell Jones of today? This exactly why my iTunes is stuck in 2003. Why do I have to search for underground UK artists just to hear some feel good R&B? Am I over-exaggerating, or do ya’ll feel the struggle too?

Jamal doesn’t let his family issues stand in his way, instead he uses life to flow through him and into his music. The second Lyon brother learns to embrace his sexuality and follow his dreams. As they say, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”. Jamal (Jussie Smollett) will have you vibing with songs like “I Wanna Love You”, feeling sexy with “All of the Above”, but he can still get nitty gritty with “Keep Your Money”. Needless to say, it was mostly his songs that I had on repeat.

Whether you’re Team Yazz (Hakeem) or Team Jussie Smollett (Jamal), you got to give props to Timbaland. He made so many hits on this one album. If you ask me, all three versions of “You’re So Beautiful” are bomb. The Empire soundtrack features so many great collaborations. I love how they brought underrated artists like Estelle, and V. Bozeman into the mainstream eye.

For your listening pleasure I linked the Empire videos below. Let me know if “We want more “Drip Drop.” in the article’s words, or if it’s time for the return of R&B. Or, do we love them both? No need to pick a favorite, the whole family is talented!

-Much Love! XO

No Grammy love here…

Not your average tea

Not your average tea

It would be so easy to sit back, sip tea, and shade the Grammy’s but, who isn’t going to do that over coffee today? Let’s dare to be different guys. Let’s talk about your inner circle.

Friends. How many of us have them? We all know the Whodini song well but the song never mentioned what color those so called friends were. Recently for Black History Month Jimmy Kimmel went to Hollywood Boulevard streets asking “Do you have a black friend?”. The video was definitely entertaining as the crowd tried to guess who had some people of color in their crew. Then the Jimmy flipped the script and asked a black guy if he had a white friend. Well, brotha man Lenwood from Virginia laughed and said, “no”. I didn’t know whether to be upset or not. Is he representing my entire race saying that we don’t kick it with them? Just what we need, somebody assuming we all hate white people again.

Before I could turn a judging eye towards Lenwood I asked myself the same question. And surprisingly I had the same answer. I wanted to say yes so bad but I would be struck with fear if they asked me ‘What was their name?’. I can’t say Susie when I haven’t spoke to her in four years. What happened to all my free-spirited white friends? When did they become only numbers on Facebook with zero phone contact? It’s apart of growing up to go off to college and slowly detach from your middle school and high school friends. Or at least thats what I’m trying to convince myself. I’m sure I would have white friends if I went to a PWI (predominately white institution) but, I go to a HBCU. They are kind of a rare sight.

So ladies, do you have any friends outside your race? Or is your crew looking pretty monochrome?

Enjoy your latte! Much Love XO